First of all, CONGRATS! This is a very exciting time in your life! Enjoy every moment.
I also can attest that this stage in your life will bring with it a large to do list and some stressors. At the top of that list, there’s usually the goal of: weight loss.
I got married last year in December and was engaged the previous October in 2017. I too had a simple goal of losing about 5-6 pounds before my wedding day so I could look “very lean” in my body-hugging wedding gown.
And it never happened.
And guess what? It was still the BEST DAY OF MY LIFE! My dress ended up being a little baggy on me anyway so it was almost a blessing!
The biggest piece of advice I can give to you is to not stress about it. Your future husband/wife chose YOU with everything you have to offer. They love you just the way you are. Having a specific number on the scale does NOT define your worth!
Now, I would also like to note that there is nothing wrong with wanting to change your body and lose weight! I just want you to have the right reasons for doing so.
A mindset shift that will help you along your life-long journey (because this isn’t a short term thing—right?) is to start by changing your WORDS.
“I can’t even do 5 push-ups” turns into:
“I CAN do one push-up.” Rinse. Wash. Repeat. Daily. Reward yourself for the abilities you have and the small moments of success along the way instead of fixating on what you “can not” do.
“I just don’t eat vegetables” turns into:
“I could increase my vegetable intake, and I will do so by starting to incorporate 1 cup of vegetables to at least two of my meals daily.”
Build. Yourself. Up! You are amazing and capable of anything you set your mind to. Believe in yourself and of course, do the work.
The top three actions that I took, in order of importance, to feel my best mentally and physically on my wedding day were to:
I worked night shift the entire year before my wedding. I, of all people, can assure you this is the most important goal to have. Sleep will impact your mood, hormones (such as cortisol, which affects weight loss), athletic performance, skin appearance, mental sharpness, and so much more. All of which you need to look and feel your best on your big day!
2. DRINK A LOT OF WATER AND FUEL YOUR BODY WITH NUTRIENT-DENSE FOODS.
You already know all the benefits of drinking enough water and eating your fruits and vegetables. I won’t bore you with the redundant benefits.
Instead, I will offer you some hacks:
Structure your meals around fruits and veggies. Remember as a kid when you had to finish off your vegetables? Do that.
Add sauces. Pesto, hummus, marinara, sugar-free BBQ sauce, etc. “Healthy food” should be delicious! Not restrictive and bland.
For water: like Nike says, “just do it.” Feeling hungry? Drink water first. About to eat a meal? Drink water first. Waking up? Drink water as soon as you wake up. Working out? Please drink water. Going to have coffee? Mandatory to drink water first.
3. CLING TO YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM.
Last tip, but just as important. Your community. The girl-gang. The tribe. Your mom. Your wedding planner. Etc. Who is part of your support system? You need them. Delegate to your bridesmaids as you need to. Vent to your friends when it’s required. Make one of them your accountability partner. Laugh with everyone as often as possible!
Be happy and live in each moment of this beautiful journey to one of the BEST days of your life!